If you search the words Don’t Settle, a lot of things come up. There are a lot of quotes and a lot of pictures for Don’t Settle. I figure that is because so many people do. We have big dreams when we are young and then, we let life get in the way and we figure, this is the way it’s going to be. This is my lot in life. This is my “Destiny”. Well, the truth is, you don’t have to be miserable. You don’t even have to be slightly unhappy. You CAN live a vibrant life and do the things you want to do, but here is the truth. If you are going to do and have some things you’ve never done and had, you are going to have to do some things differently than you’ve done in the past. In fact, you may have to do some things other people haven’t or aren’t willing to do. So, stay after it and don’t settle.
One of my favorite quotes is by Steve Jobs. This is what he said:
You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.
So, why do so many of us settle? I personally think it’s because we give up. It’s hard to keep pressing on toward the goal we have for ourselves, especially when other people around us seem to be getting ahead and doing better than we are. They are working for someone else and driving nice cars, living in nice houses and they have settled into the grind. Remember this TV Commercial? It’s for Lending Tree and while I don’t necessarily promote them, this is SO true of Americans today. It’s worth a watch:
Don’t Settle – Why do we do it?
It’s easy for me to say Don’t Settle – but why do we do it? It’s easy. Remember my blog from a few days ago on having a Plan for Success? Most people don’t plan on anything. They just float down the river like a dead fish. Wherever the wind blows is where they go. They don’t have a mission in life. They just want to make it through another day. It is true that we need to pray that God will give us our daily bread, but we also need to look to the future also, with high anticipation and a plan. The Bible also says those that don’t take care of their family is worse than an infidel. Now, I’m not one to say that material wealth is all there is to life. If you love climbing mountains, go get a job as a mountain climbing guide. If you love accounting, get a job as an accountant. BUT, if you love mountain climbing and hate accounting, don’t get a job as an accountant just because it will pay the bills. And certainly don’t get that job because you think your friends will think better of you. Why make your life miserable just to impress people you don’t even like? It’s kind of silly when you think of it that way, isn’t it? It’s the same thing with a spouse. Some people settle for someone who is less than they could be with and don’t exactly match them because they have been beaten down and think no one else will ever love them so why not. The old saying goes, don’t marry someone you can live with, marry someone you can’t live without. So, just some friendly advice, don’t settle when it comes to marriage. Over half of marriages end in divorce. Don’t be a statistic with that one. Make time for you to figure out what you want. Write down what you want in a spouse and pray about it and don’t settle for less than God has planned for you. Don’t Settle!!
Don’t Settle – Get out of the Comfort Zone!!
Settling is comfortable. Being overweight is comfortable. Working a dead end job is comfortable. Being with someone who is OK is comfortable. Not being confrontational is comfortable. In this litigious society where we are so politically correct, comfort is key. The occupy crowd wants government to pay their student loans instead of working to pay them off. So, why do we allow ourselves and those around us to settle? It’s very comfortable. But when you get in the Don’t Settle mindset, the world will open up for you and you will start to see opportunities. Take a risk. Do something scary that won’t kill you. Do something out of the ordinary! You can do it! Just spread your wings and fly and don’t settle. Start looking for ways to get out of the comfort zone that is stifling your creativity and your imagination. Don’t settle for a mediocre life. Go after it and make it happen. If it’s to be, you have to make it happen. So, ask yourself this question….if God would perform a miracle in your life today, what would you want it to be? What are you doing to help Him make that a reality? Work like it depends on you and pray like it depends on God and it will all work out just fine!! I was talking to a friend last night who told me she needed some of my “positivity” and I told her to get active and stop being sedentary. Eat Right. Get some sunshine. Enjoy life!! That would solve a lot of her problems.