What happened to us? We used to be big dreamers when we were young. We could just naturally Dream Big. I remember watching a show called Mr. Knozit when I was very young. He was on one of the local TV Stations. It was one of those shows where he would come out and have kids on the set and play cartoons and then interview the kids. Of course, one of the questions was “What do you want to be when you grow up?” They always came up with what they thought would be exciting. The usual answers were, of course, Fireman, Policeman, Doctor, Nurse, etc. Well, I never once heard one of the kids say something like this. “When I grow up I want to be working at a dead end job in a cubicle 8 to 5 with two 10-minute breaks in the morning and two 10-minute breaks in the afternoon and a half hour to an hour for lunch with the possibility of getting laid off from my job (or working a night shift where I never see my wife and kids). I want to be buried in debt and on my third wife at 45 with unruly kids who don’t respect me.” I mean, REALLY? So, what happened to us? Where did we get the idea that we have to settle? Where along the line did we let life crush us? Why do we no longer Dream Big? What has stopped us from achieving our dreams? When we are teenagers in High School, we know what our dream car is. We know what kind of house we want to live in when we grow up. We have a general idea of what we want our life to be like. So, why do we stop Dreaming? In fact, our friends would even tell us “Don’t Dream Big”. Why would they tell us that? Why would they not want us to dream big?
People who tell us to not Dream Big
Most of your friends will not want you to Dream Big. They really don’t mean to do you any harm. They just haven’t done anything in their lives either. They have lost their dreams along the way too. If you succeed, it will make them look bad. There is an old tale about crab fishing. If you go crabbing and you have a bucket with low sides, you have to keep a lid on it or the crab will crawl out. Once you catch another crab, you can throw the lid away because every time one of the crabs starts to climb out of the bucket, the other crab will reach up and pull him back in. I think I blogged about it the other day but, you are the average of the 5 people you hang around the most. The Bible says “Bad Company Corrupts Good Character. I’m not saying to not be friends with those people. What I am saying is that if you want to Dream Big consistently, you have to keep them from affecting you in negative ways. Seriously. If you stay around them very long, they will end up dragging you down and your dreams will become crab poop in the bottom of the bucket. If you want to Dream Big, get around Big Dreamers.
Find a Mentor who encourages you to Dream Big
Steve Jobs would tell you that You Don’t Dream Big Enough!! I mean, if you want to accomplish your dreams, you have to have to first of all, have a dream, and then second of all, be willing to do what it takes to accomplish it. After reading this, sit down and write down your dreams for your life. What is it that you’ve given up on? Is it a nice home, a nice car, a family, a business you wanted to start, going on that nice cruise vacation? What is it? It is waiting on you do get off your butt and do the work it takes to get there. Maybe you think it’s a pipe dream. Maybe it is, maybe it isn’t. But, there is an old saying that when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. Broke people can’t teach you how to be rich. Your lazy brother in law who is working that dead end job is not going to teach you how to become independently wealthy. Most people don’t seek out mentors to help them Dream Big and accomplish their dreams. I’m telling you now to go do that. Go find someone who has done what you want to do and ask them for their advice and help. I can guarantee you that they will help you. The only way they would not want to help you is if you are going to immediately go into competition with them. Most businessmen would be willing to take on a mentor for several years to train. That is the way society used to be with apprenticeships and still is today in most professional trades. Engineers, Architects and even Real Estate professionals have to be in the business for a specified amount of time before they can take the test to become a Professional Engineer, Licensed Architect or Real Estate Broker. If you want to go into a certain business, find a businessman who has done what you want to do and get to know them. Take them to lunch. Follow them around. They will let you and be willing to share if you ask. If you want to get in shape and lose weight, find someone who has done it and ask them for help. If you want to build a home based business and be fully retired in 2 to 3 years, find someone who has done it. I have done both of those as well and yes, I will be willing to help you. Contact me and let me help you start on your new journey to fitness and financial independence!!!