What is Normal?
Normal is defined as “Perpendicular to a Tangent at the Point of Tangency”. WHAT?? I know, I’m a recovering Engineer. Normal is normal. Ordinary. Static. Boring. And even, dare I say, at times, Dangerous. I don’t know if there is such a thing in humanity as “normal”. Maybe the word should be “typical”. I have heard so many people say that they want to be normal, or that person isn’t normal or they are behaving abnormally. So, just what is that anyway? I think we all tend to look around us and see others and compare ourselves to them and figure that we need to be more like them to fit in. That is also what we do subconsciously every time we are around people. If you think about it, you are the “average” of the five people you spend the most time with. If you look at their behaviors, finances, spiritual condition and other things, “typically” we are the average of them. The Bible even says “Bad Company Corrupts Good Character” and “Iron Sharpens Iron”. So, why don’t we pick the people we hang around more carefully? Do we want to act and be like the people we hang around most? The fact is that you will typically tend to gravitate to the become like the people you hang around. It is a lot easier for them to pull you down than for you to bring them up.
Why do we settle for Normal?
Normal is easy. Normal is the stick floating in the water downstream. Normal is minimal effort. Normal is not striving for excellence. We are all born with a desire to be more than we are. If you watch kids playing on a playground, they want to be “king of the hill” or build a block tower higher than their friends or go across the monkey bars faster. We are all built with that competitive fire in us. But society is now teaching us to settle so that we don’t hurt people’s feelings. We are made to feel bad about actually reaching for the brass ring and God forbid we actually grab it. It’s not fair to the other person if we achieve more or have more or really strive to reach a goal that has been placed in front of us. So why do we let this happen to ourselves and society? Why do we give a trophy to every kid who participates? What is wrong with winning? In a couple of weeks, the 49ers will play the Ravens in the Superbowl. Tell the losing team they did great and tell the winning team they shouldn’t be proud of their victory. They will look at you like you’re crazy. So, why do we allow “normal” to creep into our everyday lives? It’s because, again, it’s easy. We can be lazy and be normal. Everyone else is normal, so, I need to be normal too. I’m not talking about being stark raving crazy and running down the street naked abnormal (that will get you locked up and nobody wants to see it, especially from me), I’m talking about striving to be the best you can be abnormal.
Normal is everywhere and it is Changing
I heard Darren Hardy, publisher and founding editor of Success Magazine among other things, talk about “set points”. You have a set point in your life. It’s a mental image you hold of who you are, how much you weigh, how much money you make, and other things that make you who you ARE. In other words, if you took a person who was obese and suddenly they woke up and were lean and ripped, it would not be long before they were obese again and if you took someone who was lean and ripped and put 100 lbs on them, it wouldn’t be long before they were lean and ripped again. It’s the same with someone who has money and someone who does not have money. Their habits and their set point will not allow them to stay where they are. They will go back to where their mind tells them they need to be. In order to change the things in your life you need to change. Change is hard and not comfortable. You have to change that WISH into a GOAL. That doesn’t happen just by changing your behaviors. That will only work for a short time. That is one reason why diets typically fail. You have to change your value system, your beliefs and your set point. When you do that, your behaviors will change permanently. So, if nothing else, understand you are where you are because, generally, that is where you’ve chosen to be with the decisions you’ve made. If you want to change your set point, and become “abnormal”, you need to hang around people who have accomplished some things you want to accomplish. You need to be reading good things from successful people. I can give you a great list of books to read and may do that in an upcoming blog. You can listen to audio presentations of the books or speeches in your car. You need to pray a bunch and seek God’s will for your life. You need to hold yourself more accountable. You were made to be more than you are and that certainly isn’t normal. Changing the way you view yourself can help you too. Beachbody has many programs that can change your body and as you change that, you will start to see someone different in the mirror. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Are you ready to take the challenge? Contact me and let me help you find out what is NORMAL for you. Then, you can help others find what is NORMAL for them. And be ready. Anytime you stick your head up above the crowd, some jackleg is going to throw tomatoes.